My dear,

If you would know a man, observe how he treats a cat.

Does he feed it on time?
Does he serve it, or does it listen to him, and him it (like a good relationship)?

Does he ignore it?
Does he leave it alone, or does he give it space (there is a difference)?

Does he complain about it?
Does he go on about it, or does he mention it casually, as if it’s a problem he can handle easily, and one which he in fact loves to handle?

Falsely yours,
Robert A. Heilein