If you would know a man, observe how he treats a cat.
Does he feed it on time?
Does he serve it, or does it listen to him, and him it (like a good relationship)?
Does he ignore it?
Does he leave it alone, or does he give it space (there is a difference)?
Does he complain about it?
Does he go on about it, or does he mention it casually, as if it’s a problem he can handle easily, and one which he in fact loves to handle?
Robert A. Heilein