My dear,

Forgiveness is not process of hoping for a better future.

Forgiveness is giving up all hope of having had a better past.

It is a process of accepting that although the past did not turn out as well as we wanted it to, it is unchangeable, and thus all we can do is move on.

Forgiveness is a moment of realization.

One in which you understand that holding on to hopes of better Pasts leaves you with no room to hold on to better Futures and Nows.

Falsely yours,
Anne Lamott